I, Joshua Dixon, founder and designer at Admire Wear, honor and support survivors of sexual assault.
As a lifestyle brand and community of Admirers, I am committed to bringing awareness, support, and educational facts; to help us create a world where we can be safe, heard, valued, loved, admired, respected, seen, and more.
Ultimately, I have committed myself and Admire Wear to help save and protect lives worldwide through fashion, art, spoken words, daily affirmations, acknowledgment of awareness holidays, positionality, accountability, sustainability, and testimonies.
BREAKING THE SILENCE ON SEXUAL ASSAULT
I am breaking the silence as a black African American male who silently is a survivor of multiple sexual assaults. I was assaulted twice as a kid by other kids I had known and as an adult in a toxic relationship where physical and sexual abuse occurred. It's the kind of trauma that made me feel weaker inside than I already was. It changed my mind, made me scared and fearful about trusting others.
Living with that in silence and having audio in my head saying, "it doesn't happen to men because men always control the power." I now say that any abuser holds power regardless of gender roles.
I hated myself, and I already had issues loving my own body and its unique chrematistics. These events made it even harder for me to see my body in the mirror. It made it hard for me to see myself as a man in my own eyes. I told myself that I would be a man if I just held it inside, stood firm, and laughed it off.
One of the best quotes I've heard was from an anonymous male survivor blog posting:
"Healing is Feeling"
You are not alone. I believe that if we are feeling, we are on the road toward proper healing for all of us. My name is Joshua Dixon, and I'm a survivor of multiple things, and one of them is sexual abuse. I stand with and alongside you in this fight and journey towards healing and self-love. I advocate for mental health awareness and many communities of survivors. All of the trauma I endured in life fuels Admire Wear and its mission to help save lives like mine and yours
Affirmations for Survivors
1. I’m worthy of love just as I am.
2. My flaws don’t make me unloveable or deserving of violence.
3. It wasn’t in my head; they just made it seem that way.
4. No one will ever be able to remove the love that God gave me. Love Prevails
5. I deserve to set and maintain boundaries.
6. I don’t have to forgive or forget. That doesn’t make me a bad person.
7. I release and forgive myself for any responsibility I have accepted in the past for my abuse.
8. I am forever loved.
Ways to Staying Safe (Sourced by RAINN)
What Consent Looks Like- The laws vary by state and situation, but you don’t have to be a legal expert to understand how consent plays out in real life.
How to Respond if Someone Is Pressuring You- If someone is pressuring you to engage in sexual activity, it is important to remember that being in this situation is not your fault. Here are some strategies to try.
Safety Planning- Brainstorming ways to stay safe may help reduce the risk of future harm.
Safety Tips for Traveling- Whether you travel often or you’re getting ready for a once-in-a-lifetime vacation, it’s important to think about safety as part of your travel preparations.
Alcohol Safety- There are steps you can take to increase your safety in situations where drinking may be involved. Like any safety tips, they are not a guarantee, but they may help you feel more secure in social situations.
Let's Talk About...- Check out RAINN's comics on consent, safe dating tips for teens, talking with young children about sexual assault, and talking with college students about stay safe on campus.
Practicing Active Bystander Intervention- When you see something that doesn’t seem right, there are simple ways to step in and help a friend.
Your Role in Preventing Sexual Assault- Whether it’s giving someone a safe ride home from a party or diverting a person who is engaging in uncomfortable behavior, anyone can help prevent sexual violence.
HELP IS AVAILABLE HOTLINES
A place without you isn't a world I want to live in. The world is better with you.If you need help please reach out to a friend, loved one or trained professional.
Suicide Prevention Hotline 24/7: CALL 800-273-8255
24/7 Online chat: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/Text "HOME" to741741
National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7: CALL 800-799-7233
24/7 Text Chat: Text "START" to 88788 Online Chat at: https://thehotline.org
National Sexual Assault Hotline 24/7: CALL 800-656-4673
Online Chat: https://hotline.rainn.org/online
The Trevor Project 24/7: CALL 866-488-7386OnlineCHATText : 678678
The Trevor Project provides 24/7 crisis support services to LGBTQ young people. Text, chat, or call anytime to reach a trained counselor.
Helping Survivors - helpingsurvivors.org
"Helping Survivors mission is to assist anyone who has been victimized by sexual assault or abuse. Our website is a compilation of information around different instances of sexual violence. We offer resources to assist survivors and their families, and we will continuously be adding more. Survivors can also reach out to us if they have any questions at all or are looking for advice."